Hurting People Hurt Others - I Just Better Not Be The Other

We have all heard "hurting people hurt others" which is all fine and dandy from the sidelines of somebody else's problems. But what about when the person that gets hurt is you?  I have had the awesome experience lately of being tested, tried and then tested even more in this very thing.  By awesome experience, I mean that it has been extremely painful but the end result of growth has been worth it.

During these trial with others its hard to see anything else but our own hurt.  Admittedly, I am not a person that just says aww you know what, bless their little heart, they are hurting, its ok I will pray for them. Not at first anyways.  At first, I want to DELETE them from Facebook in some evil passive aggressive move, like hahaha ill fix you- you're officially deleted from my life- BOOYA! -because we all know facebook is life. lol.

But because God is all about refining, I get to take this test over and over again until I pass it. So, I have learned to not act out my flesh in a facebook deleting or coded status updates.  As silly as that sounds, it is really difficult at times. I want to put their actions against me on blast, especially because it usually involves my children.

Eventually my boiling blood cools off and and I am thankful for not entertaining the stupidity of my thoughts and start to really think about who it is that has offended me.  I pray about it.  I asked for eyes to see them as God does.  I end up seeing them in a completely different light, and see their struggles.  Immediately compassion and empathy  comes over me. Because my own personal desire is to walk in love, I cannot hold onto the things that offend me.  Of course, it doesn't magically erase everything but it does take away the bondage of bitterness and anger that I would have if I didn't release myself from the offence.  In situations that are a little more painful, I have to ask God daily to release me from them.  I rest in the knowledge that I can be bitter or I can be better.  I choose better because we all know bitter causes frown lines and that is not cute at 33.  :)

I pray you all are wildly bless beyond measure.
xo
wendy